It's not you...It's them

When you can see/read people, you want to let them know they're not gettin' over and that you're not stupid. There are times you can't because you're being checked and aren't allowed to say what you really really REALLY want to say 🤐. As blunt as I can be, I also swallow words. I'm not allowed to unsheathe the word knife from my mouth. 😁 But that doesn't stop my mental side-eye 👀 and silent, "Hmmph, they really think I don't know, don't they..."

Maybe, it's just me. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I've said it many times before and I'm sayin' it again: People are somethin' ELSE...Christian people too. Sometimes, we're the absolute worse because we sanctimoniously wrap our ugly and "sometimey" behavior in scripture. 

If being accepted by people is crucial to your self-worth, you will always wrestle with feeling you're not good enough or always at fault when really you're the victim of someone being messy, their projection, or their ugly.

Having problems dealing with folk? Listen, maybe...just maybe the problem isn't you. It's them. Self-reflection is a must. Accepting that the other guy has the problem and not you is also a must. 

Make sure your heart is clear and free yourself by accepting that whole thing wasn't about you in the first place. It was all about them and their stuff. 

If you are at fault, you're the problem. Deal with your stuff, and stop hurtin' people. 

Nothing makes me struggle with contempt more than seeing hard-hearted, nasty, messy, and hateful Christians tellin' other folk how to walk in love...preparing messages but not eatin' them first.

You know they're mean and hateful as all get out at home, but loving and caring when outside of it.

Don't get me started on these men who can see the needs of every woman EXCEPT their own wife's.

And the lying preachers😠...Breathe, girl...breathe.🙄

It's good to be able to read people...but sometimes I'd rather I just didn't know. You know, that whole ignorance is bliss thing...

If you can see/read people, you really need to work on being able to get over people...love 'em, but get over 'em. If you can't, you will live in a world of hurt.

Again...maybe it's just me.🤷🏾‍♀️

Just keepin' it real...

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